Kenneth Cole Reaction dress shirts

I first found one of their dress shirts at my local thrift shop – it was labelled as a men’s small and I never expected it to fit me. To my surprise they run very small. This means no extra shoulder space and I did not need to roll up the sleeves! They’re overall super comfortable.
It is kind of a designer brand so things are a bit on the pricey side but I will pay that for a shirt that is small enough.

— JJ
About JJ

I’m JJ, 15 years old and genderallovertheplace. I think penguins are the most awesome animal ever. And I like sexy ties.

Topman (from Topshop)

As a very narrow boi, it is almost impossible to find shirts and suit jackets that fit me. This is the only, literally the ONLY place I have ever found that works. They have a “super skinny” style and carry XXS! My entire work/interview/date-night wardrobe is from them. Their stuff is very cute too. Though, I can only vouch for their formal wear, not sure about casual fit.

— Tee See
About Tee See

I’m an early-30s gender-queer trying to figure out how to “grow up” in a world where all physical signs and indications of being an adult seem to require fitting into the gender binary. Androgyny, depending on the place and time you grew up, may have had a place but it always seems end with puberty- leaving many of us stuck in perpetual peter-pan syndrome. There are many things I love about being youthful and I never want to give up “playing” and engaging with nature and using my body to express myself as children often do… but I also want my views and ideas to be taken seriously, I want to enjoy adult sexuality, and I want to feel confidant and comfortable in a business setting. These things have all been difficult to navigate with my gender expression. I’m grateful for this site and people in my community who are talking about related issues- helping me feel less alone.
I have lived in the bay since 2007 and hope to make my home here for a long time. As of Fall 2013, I’m excited to have begun my adventure in graduate school. Yet another game in growing up.

Introducing Genderplayful 2.0

Queer Glitter Resin Necklaces by RowdyBaubles on

Queer Glitter Resin Necklaces by RowdyBaubles on

Welcome to the next big thing! 

Genderplayful is a community project that aims to collaboratively solve wardrobe problems and inspire great fashion for anyone who doesn’t cleanly fit the roles, expectations, or body types of their assigned gender.

And today, we launch this as our new website. If you’ve been following our story, you know that this isn’t really a new website. We’ve been working on Genderplayful in one form or another for almost three years now.

Genderplayful 1.0 was a community marketplace for us to sell clothes to one another. We built it with a lot of volunteer help and a community fundraiser. It was a great idea, but it was also a bit too complicated for the budget we had in mind, and sadly, we couldn’t keep it up for very long. But whatever. Etsy and Ebay already exist. What we really want to do is share wardrobe solutions. And we can do that for a lot less money.

So allow us to introduce Genderplayful 2.0! We’re modeling this a bit off our sibling project, Genderfork — a supportive community for the expression of identities across the gender spectrum. We think we can use a similar approach to have a conversation about clothing, fashion, and just being able to leave the house in the morning.

In other words, if Genderfork is about people, then Genderplayful is about things.

At Genderplayful, we share what we’ve learned about how to make our appearances look the way we want them to look. We discuss how we’ve made clothing work for our bodies despite the fact that typical department stores seem to have no place for us. We recommend vendors who are friendly to people who don’t conform to the expectations of their genders, and who celebrate diversity in body types. We support each other and help each other navigate this world of creative self-expression and getting people to see us the way we see ourselves.

Wanna play?

The posts below are sample content from early submissions (along with some articles from the Genderplayful 1.0 community blog), but really, we’re just getting started here. And we need two big things to help us get off the ground:

1) Submissions!

Click the “Contribute” menu and find ways to help us out. As we kick this project off, what we’re most interested in is What are your favorite things to wear?, and What vendors or websites do you recommend? We invite you to start sharing whatever rings most true and important to you, so that others can connect with your experience and be inspired in their own explorations. (Please also take a look at our Community Guidelines for a few tips on the kind of values and culture we’re going for.)

2) Volunteers!

Do you want to help us out? We’re in the market for all kinds of volunteers right now, and so is Genderfork. We ask our volunteers to contribute a few hours a week, and to maintain high standards for representing diversity and building a supportive community. The roles available include blogging submissions, finding new content from the Internet, updating our social media feeds, helping to manage the team, moderating discussions, being an editor, and being a techie (and you generally only have to pick one). If you’d like to volunteer for either Genderfork or Genderplayful, just fill out this form so we know you’re interested, and we’ll get back to you when we can.

We hope you enjoy the next version of Genderplayful. Please take a minute to leave a supportive comment on our initial posts up to help get the conversation rolling!


The Brooklyn Blazer

The Brooklyn Blazer

Check out Marimacho!

Rockin’ transmasculine/genderqueer clothes! Pricey, but deliciously adorable. :)

— PJ

Guys in Ballet Flats

Ballet Flats from Barefoot Tess

Ballet Flats from Barefoot Tess, sold in sizes 11 – 15

I have discovered the joy of wearing ballet flats. I’m a guy and I tried flats for the first time about 8 years ago, but in the interim more flats have been made that fit me (size 10 mens = 11.5-12 womens). I live where it’s hot and sandals aren’t all that practical all the time but flats provide foot coverage and a very comfortable environment. Easy to slip on and off and look great. Sadly, men haven’t adopted them, but I did talk to the people at Corso Como and they make the larger sizes in their flats knowing that some of them are sold to guys.

I have also had success at Barefoot Tess, DSW, eBay, Amazon and a couple other vendors. I now have about 25 pairs and wear them out about at least once a week…. sometimes more. Hardly anyone ever notices, but when they do it’s 95% positive. I dress like a guy in all other respects but have found I love wearing flats.

— TeeJay

Because Human And Why Not

Fall Long Bohemian Patchwork Skirt by 1000Colors on

Fall Long Bohemian Patchwork Skirt by 1000Colors on

The one thing that’s really helped me grasp that I’m nonbinary has been skirts, oddly enough. If they’re pressed on me Because Girl, the results are just miserable all around, but discovering that they’re actually pretty cool if I approach them from an angle of Because Human And Why Not made it clear that Girl is a bad angle for me and Human And Why Not is a much better one.

I’m still annoyed at how hard it is to make skirt-wearing look as subversive as it feels, though. :P

— Adelene

H&M Rockstar


photo via Creatrix Tiara

I got this outfit from H&M that made me feel like a rockstar. Shiny biker-esque jacket, various t-shirts (including a white & blue stripe as well as a cat shirt), black sparkly jeans, black belt with metal addons. ZOMG. Finally my inner rockstar has a way to express herself.

— Creatrix Tiara